Sad to say that with all the bad impression some wedding magazines and even some articles on the internet about wedding vendors, aiming to just get your money and not delivering the service they should give their clients, some couples are fighting back by ignoring that their vendors have feelings too.

A person I talked about this even told me a time that she went to a wedding and noticed the bad treatment the vendors received, she felt bad because the wedding vendors were all in a far dark corner of the wedding and that their food was not even the same as what they were eating. The photographer was running here and there, just to get the pictures the couples wanted while all the while their food was untouched.

Last week I even read a comment by a good wedding DJ that as he sent his proposal to the bride, the bride sent him a letter and gave her own condition plus a check of $200 indicating that it is the fee for his service. As it is noted, only the vendors can say how much they should be given and not the other way around. It is totally rude to just say how much they should be paid in the first place.

Your photographer, caterer, musician, and even your wedding planner are all important people that should be given credit as they are all there, not to take your money, but because of their passion for weddings. Do not just abuse your wedding planner by letting her run your errands such as purchasing your bridesmaid jewelry gifts since that is your job and not hers.

As most have probably seen, heard, read about wedding vendors that brides should take the necessary precautions with dealing with them, although some may have really the wrong intentions to begin with, but not all vendors are bad. In fact, most vendors are wedding enthusiasts and the main reason why they are with that form of job is because of their love for the work.

Most of them do not actually become instantly rich just because they are doing your wedding. The fact that some wedding vendors are sometimes treated bad by the bride and groom is totally saddening.

Just the other day, as I was reading some comments of a photographer, she said that a bride was making different demands to change location for their pre-shoot and was even asking to give her an extra four hours free of charge. The photographer felt that it was like an abuse and that the bride has all the cards.

Couples should realize that even if they are paying their wedding vendors, they are also human being and there is nothing wrong with being polite even if the vendor did something wrong, right? As planning a wedding may really be demanding, but being good to those you work with will even leave a good impression not only to your vendors, but also to those who sees you.

Giving tips to your wedding vendors should be done before the wedding ends. You should give this responsibility to your wedding planner or to some of your bridesmaids whom you think you can rely on. Don’t worry the tips that you are going to give them is not that expensive like your great looking crystal wedding jewelry whom everyone will guess is expensive.

Your vendors also deserve a bit of incentive especially if they did their best to give you a good wedding. There are just different amount that you should give each vendors and the class of work they did.

Stylist gets 15 to 20% of total fee

Transportation services go the same with the stylist

Wedding officiant gets $100 to $200

Caterer and waiter staff mostly ranges from $250 to $500 and still depending on the total cost and the type of event you had.

But keep in mind that giving tips to your vendors is not mandatory, but if you think your vendors deserve a tip from you, then go and make them happy with a bonus from you.

Incentives are always given especially if those you are going to give these to, did a great job. Giving vendors tips also show that you appreciated their effort they gave your wedding. You may think that you have a lot to spend on your wedding, which will also include your wedding jewelry, but you should also consider that the tips for your vendors is not that big compare to the other expenses for the wedding.

The problem with giving tips to your vendors is that you may not even have the time to give it to them right after the wedding. You and your spouse will be busy with your honeymoon so it is important to delegate this task to a person who can help you give the tips to your vendors. A possible person to handle this task is your wedding planner, if you have one or give this task to your bridesmaids. They will be more than willing to do this for you. Just remind them though to give the tips before the wedding is over since you do not want your vendors to leave without getting their tips.

Some brides are sad to say find themselves trusting their vendors too much that they do not even ask for a written contract with them and ending up being disappointed by them because they just did not keep their promises.

Contracts are very important when dealing with wedding vendors. It is your safe haven when things do not go your way. But of course when doing your contract you need to specify everything that you want to happen and if both parties understand what is written in the contract.

A wedding disaster may happen if for example your expected wedding DJ was substituted and the substitute DJ does not know the song for the ceremony and for the reception. If you do not have a contract specifying that a full refund on any deposit should be given if the vendors did not deliver as expected, then you cannot do anything for situations such as this.

You would want your wedding to be a smooth sailing one with you dancing with your crystal jewelry earrings together with the groom and not considering about bad things happening. The safest way is to secure the right contract and not dealing with the stress later.

The same with finding your wedding crystal jewelry earrings, you will need to also carefully select your vendors to have the perfect wedding. There are a lot of places on where to find your wedding vendors. The problem is selecting the ones that will match watch you will need.

You can start looking for your vendors in some bridal shows that are in your area. Once you are there, you will be surprised about the large number of wedding vendors promoting their products. Attending bridal shows will be a great opportunity since you do not have to go to some other places just to find vendors. They are already in one place for you to select them.

Another simple way to find your vendors is just by looking on some bridal magazines and directories. The only given problem with bridal magazines and directories is that they show a lot different vendors that you may find yourself overwhelmed by them, but still using these mediums are still helpful since there are a lot of great choices for you to select from.

If you have a wedding planner with you, you can ask her to help you beside from helping you with your wedding crystal jewelry earrings, with your wedding vendors. Her job as a wedding planner gives her full access to different vendors in different categories. If you do not have a wedding planner, you can still ask one for some vendors for a certain fee.

The two easiest ways to find your wedding vendors are: asking your friends or family for referrals, and finding your vendors through your wedding ceremony and location.

If you have a friend or a relative who just got married recently or if they usually hire a specific vendor for certain events, then it is good if you can ask them. They will give you straight answers on reliable and trusted vendors even with those who helped them with looking for the right bridesmaid gifts. Ask them different questions on whom really helped them a lot and what they did not like about their vendors. And if given a chance to work with them again, who would they hire back.

Another way to find your vendors is through your ceremony location and reception location. Ask your location if they can recommend some vendors you think they trust. Most of them have a preferred vendors list and those vendors are familiar with the location’s management that you do not need much to explain for certain regulations to them.

After securing your vendors, do not forget to have a written contract with them to seal the deal. You need to read the contract first and be specific about what you need. Confirm the necessary details and ask them to send you a contract.

In any case that you are going to give some tips to your vendors, you need to know the amount that you are about to give since you do not want to overdo it or you might really end up broke.

First ask if all of your wedding vendors included a gratuities in their contract. Caterers most of the time includes this in their total bill and transportation while hotels include a service charge for their event manager, bartender and wait staff.

Nevertheless set aside a portion of your budget for these people:

Bartenders - If you hired them separately and if they didn’t include their own service charge, allocate 15% to 20% of their total bill as their tip.

Wait staff- Again if they did not include a gratuity in their contract, give your wait staff 15% to 20% of their total food and beverage bill.

Your photographers and videographers can also receive an extra $50 to $200 or even more per vendor. That is if they did a hell of a job!

Ask your bridesmaids to distribute their tips before the wedding ends. For sure your bridesmaids will be more than willing since you also provided them with their own wedding jewelry that they wore through your wedding.

It is not that difficult to allocate the right tips for your wedding vendors. It is just a matter of knowing how much you really need to give them and when you intend to give it to them. Although there is no specific rule if you do really need to give them something extra beside from the total amount of money you already gave them. But it is still best consider their effort at the same time by giving them some extra bonuses.

Because you do not have a lot of time to hand their tips during the wedding, you can ask some of your bridesmaids or groomsmen to hand over your tips to those vendors you need to give your tips to before the wedding is over. Tell them not to give the tips after wedding because some vendors may already go home. Just make sure that you have already given your bridesmaids and groomsmen their bridesmaids gifts and groomsmen gifts so they will feel more up to the task.

The art of gift giving in any wedding planning can vary in styles, in gifts, and in cash. Grooms often give groomsmen gifts while brides consider allocating funds for tips for their vendors. It is also a great way to acknowledge their vendors role in the success of their wedding, although it may not be much, but it is still a gift worth praising.

But how much should you give your wedding vendors as gifts. Groomsmen gifts on the other hand can even range to $20 to $200 depending on the groom’s budget. When it comes to vendors tips and if most of them do not include gratuities on their contracts, a 15% to 20% of the total bar bill for bartenders, the same goes for the total food and beverage bill for the wait staff and event manager of the hotel.

Your wedding photographers and videographers can also receive a minimum amount of $50 to $200. Although it would still depend on you on the amount that you think is necessary per vendor. Your wedding planner on the other hand does not expect a gift or cash from you, but if you could still give her a gift or a tip, she would totally appreciate the gesture.