How many of us can recite the wedding vows again right now?
This makes brings to most of us who are married a point that we really don`t know the rules of marriage even we thought we knew. Our behavior can be compared to that person going into the field to play soccer without understanding the rules such as where will be penalty or where to stand and so on. How can that person play?
Here are the 5 essential tips to keep in mind after you wedding to stay fit and I promise you these are all you ever need.
1: Enhance Your Love Maps
After wedding, you become committed to supporting each other. In addition, This will means you are supporting each other’s dreams, flourishing the relationship beyond where it is today and helping each other to grow.
I don’t say “no” but she had to stay at home to look after the kids.
Making the relationship flourish means consciously adding little sparks of surprises now and then. My wife gets a bouquet of flower once every month or two months.
In alternate years, both of us plan to join some courses each of us like. This year, we decided to joined the a computer training class, surprising I’m the only male student in class sometimes.
Although i don’t feel uncomfortable in this class, it is my commitment to our love map to make our love grow. After this training it will be my turn to choose.
2: Nurture Your Fondness and Admiration
Do you know that we have this “Remind Your Strengths” session every now and then?
It is to fortify our convictions on each other. My lover has dependably magnanimously helped me to remember how great I am the point at which I was down.
I generally make it a point to remind my lover that she has effectively done her best at whatever point she believed she has not. I completely trust she has and I advise her in full certainty that she is continually working and putting forth a valiant effort.
This makes us feel good.
Imagine someone coming up to you to praise you that you are good-looking and smart. Won’t you feel being on cloud nine?
3: Turn Towards Each Other Instead of Away
As years pass and marriage life seemed to be more routine and less exciting, many couples turn to outside to look for more excitement.
They could be finding more friends, complaining to their best friends about their spouses’ weird habits and promises they have not fulfilled.
I wonder what if they turn towards each other and start asking how they can add more excitement for themselves for this year. They could sit together, work out a plan together and talk with each other.
I know of a married couple who have been travelling to a country a year for the past tens of years. Why did it happen? Because they have planned.
4: Solve Your Solvable Problems
Most of the time, finance is always the root to quarrels and arguments. It is normal and it happens to 9 out of 10 families.
I know we couldn’t possibly buy a pot of money tree cluttered with hard cash and we can harvest the money the next day. But we can do is sit together and work out the family finances together.
We can solve the problem as of now. Even though, the money issue can’t be solve overnight, couples can work together to discuss how they much money to set aside for this month’s expenses.
I have heard of wives who gave harsh statements such as “If only you are rich, I won’t have to suffer now.” Oh my, I wonder how much hurt the husband feel when this statement stuck his ego and esteem.
5: Create Share Meaning
Marriage is not entirely about starting a family, looking after the kids and that’s it. It involves a much more spiritual dimension that the couples live in.
For instance, they may be common belief for some couples in the religion perspective. Others have common value in wanting to do volunteer work and reaching out to others. You can also look for best at home workout programs which will help have a stronger relationship with your partner
The rest may find common belief in wanting to keep fit and that is why they may end up participating in yearly marathons under the”couple’s category”
So what is the shared meaning among you and your spouse?